Freedom of Sexual Expression

I just read that it is important for gays (generally speaking) to believe they have no choice about being “gay”. Supposedly, they need to believe they have no choice in order to attenuate their shame.
Wow. I should have known this already, considering my predominantly gay sexual adventures. But I did not realize this (in the general sense). I knew that some gays felt that way, but not most of them. I always assumed that most gays understood that being “gay” was a choice. To me, it has always been important that my sexual exploits were the product of my own volition. If who I enjoy having sex with is not my choice, then what choices do I have at all?
There is no more intimate form of communication between two people than sexual expression. If I cannot choose what I “say” sexually, then I have no choice in anything I say. Because of its extremely intimate and personal nature, sex, to me, is the most meaningful form of speech. Without freedom of sexual expression there is no freedom of speech.
Perhaps this is why men who seek power over other men throughout history, i.e. religions and governments, have always suppressed sexual expression. It is only obvious that if men cannot express themselves satisfactorily they will readily turn to other men to do so for them, which is what we call social intercourse. If so, then it becomes obvious how social concepts such as “justice” and “freedom” and “security” can be so emotionally charged, because they are proxies for pent up sexual energy!
Wow! So governments and religions derive their power by suppressing and then redirecting the emotional energy of our libidos! How weird is that? No wonder we are constantly fighting and killing each other. If all this is true, then in a better world, sexual expression (and so-called “preference”) will be completely untethered. I suspect the only “law” in such a world would be the One Law that Jesus speaks of in the Bible, “Love thy neighbor as thyself” (which is the same thing as loving God when it is understood correctly), then the thought that “God condemnd homosexual behavior” will be seen as ludicrous by everyone, because everyone will be “gay” (i.e. willing to do whatever feels good without compunction).