The Nassar Farce

On the popular media T.V. show 20/20 they spent an entire hour supposedly informing Americans about the «monster» who molested hundreds if not thousands of young girls and women in his professional occupation as a gymnastics doctor. I choked down as much of this «popular» emotional crap as I could just to see if they make any mention at all of the pleasure and orgasms that these girls must have experienced during their «abuse»... unless they themselves are not human and don't respond naturally to being «touched» sexually.

Guess what? They not only failed to make any mention of such facts, but they spent nearly the entire hour emphasizing and repeating how much «pain and suffering» the doctor caused. And yet every bit of that pain comes from the socially programmed attitudes toward what he did, not what he actually did!

He never physically injured anyone. He never toyed with anyone's emotions. All he did was to pleasure himself by pleasuring the girls. And if they simply admitted to the pleasure (instead of referring to it as «shame», as they are taught to), then they'd still appreciate what he did, as they say they did before they «found out» (were taught) they had been «abused». And then instead of millions being spent in the process of legally and socially condemning Dr. Larry Nassar, the money and public scrutiny could have been directed toward helping the tens of thousands of children who die every day in this world from truly horrible conditions that are so stupidly simple to fix and prevent, and yet ignored in favor of «sex scandals».

But it seems America loves its «shameful» sex-stories, and the System loves using its «authority» (money and power) to indulge such ignorant and self-righteous gratifications, as it long has. In the past, people would be just as morally «offended» by witches, or heathens, or hippies, or homosexuals. And, in every case, the «victims» and «survivors» were lined up to tearfully testify about how «evil» and «monstrous» the culprit is, who took away their «dignity» or «childhood», or some other impossible-to-define intangible loss.

And if you think, «Of course a monster will rationalize away another monster's behavior», then you're the one being monstrous. By failing to see and acknowledge the simple truths that could set this world free, and end the suffering, you supporting deception that enslaves us, and causes – not only your own pain and misery (even as you blame others) – but allows the suffering to continue for millions more, including the needless «suffering» of all of Nassar's deluded «victims».

If per some off-chance you are one of those people who have been convinced that you are a «victim of sexual abuse» because someone «touched you inappropriately», and you think this post must be B.S. because you «know» your pain is real in the most palpable sense, then stop for a moment and consider this: Yes, your emotional pain is real, but it is based on a lie. The lie has been illustrated many times here in the Fifth Nail blog, and more importantly throughout history by many writers and teachers far more adept for the job of illustrating such deception (it's basically a classic «Emperor's Robes» deception). But, just because your emotions are based on a lie does not make them «fake» or «not real». They are real, and it's really sad that you have been deceived to feel the way you do. And it's never easy to stop feeling the kind of pain you must feel, even after you accept that you have been deceived into feeling them. But it is infinitely harder still to accept the truth, especially after you have «invested» so much of your life in feeling the way you do; like a «victim» (or «survivor», if you prefer). And yet, that's exactly what you must do if you want to stop being a part of the problem, and help to stop others from going through the hellish nightmare of suffering you have been through. You must stop being a «victim» (and/or a «survivor»), and you must become honest instead. It is the only way to stop, not only your own suffering, but the unnecessary pain and suffering of the world! You must learn that we are all «perpetrators» of the madness; there are no «victims» or «monsters», except those that we imagine, and create those that we imagine, and create within ourselves.

Of course we are talking about forgiveness here. Not Christian forgiveness, where you «forgive» someone after judging them in the «wrong». That is just an excuse to judge someone, and is the opposite of real forgiveness. True forgiveness is simply letting go of your judgment, and letting go of the lies that are the bases of all the unnecessary pain and suffering. True forgiveness is the absence of judgment. It sees only human beings and not «victims» and «monsters» (or «right» and«wrong», or «good» and «bad»). True forgiveness is not an unsubstantial gift you give (that makes you «right» and someone else «wrong»). True forgiveness is a cure. It is a cure for our madness – the insanity of judgment that inflicts our world. And it is the only cure.

The only cure for crime is love.
Everything else is just more crime.
- Joseph Duncan*



* These words were found written in large letters on the dining room mirror of Duncan's apartment after he absconded from Fargo in 2005 – just weeks before he murdered the Groene family and kidnapped the children. His landlords photographed the mirror and later handed the photos over to the F.B.I., who used the photo as «evidence» in court to illustrate «premeditation».