Unemotional Love

Real love is not an emotion. A friend of mine once told me that real love is a choice. I thought I understood at the time, but I didn't. I thought he meant it was a choice to feel love for someone. But now I realize that real love is a choice to make someone else your top priority in life. Even if doing so causes you to feel unloved and forgotten, or any other emotional pain. Real love does not seek emotional pleasure, but finds happiness in suffering. As long as that suffering is for another person.

This can be confusing if it is not understood beyond words. For example, some people confuse masochistic suffering as real love. But in that case they are also confusing emotional pleasure with true happiness. True happiness, like true love, is not an emotion. It is simply a form of knowledge without confusion and doubt. It is knowing your purpose, and your ability to fulfill that purpose. Not a vague or imagined purpose. But a real and clear purpose that makes you smile when you think about it, even if you are in deep pain.

Another common mistake people make is thinking that love must be recipricated. True love is rarely recipricated, at least not in the present world. This is because real love is so rare in this world. The odds of two people being able to genuinely love each other actually meeting is very small. And even when such people do meet, they tend to unconsciously repell each other. Unless they come in close intimate contact. In that case they will lock into each other and become one. But this is extremely rare in the present world, and when it does happen it usually goes unnoticed by all but the two (or even rarer, three) who have become one.

I believe our destiny as a world is for everyone to become locked into each other to form one global “body-mind”. And I'm not the only one who believes this. I believe it because of what I have experienced within myself as reflected in the world. In other words, because of my direct experience, not because of something someone told me, or something I read. I always emphasize, it is not something that can be understood with words. It must be experienced. And so must real love, and real happiness.

Real love is when someone else's happiness is imperative to your own. And enlightenment is when everyone else's happiness is imperative to your own. And we make others the happiest by honestly being who we are.